Do You Feel Alone?

Every woman longs for someone who will listen and offer a safe environment where she can
laugh, cry, and express her feelings. At midlife, your friendships with other women will make
the difference between living a vibrant, fulfilling life and being miserably alone. It’s important
to take the time now to cultivate meaningful relationships with women that cheer you on while
you explore different options, catch you when you fall, and encourage and support you as you
endeavor to redefine yourself.

The biggest key to finding friends like this is to be one yourself! Listen to other women when
they’re sharing about themselves. Be attentive. Show interest. Keep the conversation focused on
them and not on you. It’s okay to share a similar situation, but make sure you’re giving the other
woman plenty of time to speak and share what’s on her heart before you barge in with a situation
of your own. It’s much better to ask questions like, “How did that make you feel?” Questions like
these allow the other person to realize that you really are hearing what they’re saying.

Be willing to make yourself vulnerable by sharing your inner feelings with a small, intimate group
of women. You have found a treasure if you have just two or three other women with whom you
can take off your mask and risk being totally honest and transparent.

Action Steps:

1. Form a support group with other women where you hold each other accountable to your
goals. Grant the freedom to ask each other compelling, thought-provoking questions which
lead to discovering solutions to perceived obstacles in their path. Challenge each other to
reach new heights and explore new paths you’d previously considered impossible!

2. Build memories together. Do a girls’ weekend away. Stay at a bed and breakfast. Take a
rafting trip. Plan a fun outing. Join a golf league. Visit a day spa together. Join a women’s
fitness center together. Have an all-night card party or scrapbooking workshop. Rent fun
movies. Play songs from the 60’s and 70’s and dance to them!

3. Do your friends know that you’re thinking about them? Meeting face-to-face is the best way
to reinforce relationships, but you can also pick up the phone, send an email, or even better
– send a note letting her know that you’re thinking about her. Finally, pray for your friends.
There’s nothing more powerful than prayer for changing lives! If there’s someone that is on
your mind a lot and whose situation weighs heavy on your heart, don’t underestimate the
effectiveness of asking God to touch her life.

4. Be grateful for the women who have impacted your life. If they’re still living, let them know

How much their friendship means to you. Don’t let the busyness of the life keep you from
focusing on the relationships that make it truly worthwhile. Reconnect with old friends
and nurture the new friendships that are just beginning to blossom. Your life will be richer
because of them.

Deep, meaningful friendships like these will give you a fresh perspective on your struggles and
the assurance that you don’t need to go through life alone. It’s wonderful to have these kinds of
friends to share the joys of life with as well.

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